Like A Thief in the Night: Stealing Words Away

First, allow me to apologize for my absence last Monday, I had gone away to Las Vegas to see my family for the holidays and the 5 hour bus rides took a bit out of me. But I digress, I hope everyone has a good weekend and let’s get to it shall we?

Words. Words are powerful. When spoken, intonation and body language lend them greater power than a dagger to the heart, or a greater joy than being able to kiss the lips of your one true love. Written, they are permanent, and their order, and choice of members, can mean the difference between being seen for what they are, or being misunderstood and causing an uproar. But words are neither good nor bad, simply the product of the thoughts of the speaking and writing. For me, my words are one of my biggest strengths. When speaking I tend to stammer if I get nervous: I pause, I stutter, and I often fail to pronounce the word I was looking for. But in writing my words are carefully chosen, and deftly positioned to impact the most. And my favorite target of these words? Why my lady love, Sorcha, of course. Leaving her speechless after a short note of love, or a simple observation of a new trait I noticed that I find infinitely adorable. That smile and the warm silence are my gifts in return for my words and I cherish them. Sorcha has begun to call these “Romantic Epiphanies” and I like to think we are coining a new term now (look for an article on Sorcha’s behalf explaining these very nice moments). Now, most people don’t know how to use their words, which, to me, seems like a shame, since it is a talent easily usable by many. You don’t need a big vocabulary, just the ability to not hide what your feeling, which seems like more of a problem with men than women. So here are 3 ways to be the Thief of the Night and escape with her words:

• Whispers. Whispers convey love and desire more so than a normal volume. When you get the chance, a kiss to the cheek, and whispered tender words. Something as simple as “I love you so much,” can send shivers down their spine. If your reply is a kiss, or simply a warm hug, it counts as a success. Care to push it further? Add context. Tell them one small thing you appreciate about them, be it physical, or emotional. Everyone likes hearing the reason why they are so desired, and if it’s something small that no one compliments, it tends to mean more. “My dearest Sorcha, I love you, and the way your smile always seems to call mine out from hiding.”
• Notes. Long letters sent to far off places, scribblings on a post-it note or a cute series of symbols on a white board attached to your refrigerator. Words written are almost eternal if preserved. And sometimes, they can mean more because of the thought put into them. When you wake up early, leave a post-it on your pillow or the lamp shade. Remind them of how much they mean to you, and how much you think of them. Write a letter, and even if you live together, drop it in your post, and let them find it, when you come home expect a nice hug in return. A scrap book, to put those post-its, letters, even Polaroids of the fridge every time those magnetic letters spell out a poem. Though if you run out of w’s, don’t be afraid to push those v’s close together.
• Song. This one people may wonder about, but it is true. Sending them a text of a song and artist, and letting them find it and hear it. It lets them know you always think of them when that romantic song comes on. As you may have seen, Sorcha and I have our own playlist in progress (here is a link to the first volume), but gathering song like this leads to a nice playlist of music you and your love can listen to together, and even sing along together. And regardless if you can sing or not, or you don’t think you are, singing them a love song while they fall asleep is always something that will make them smile.

So there you have it, three of many ways to use your words to steal theirs. Making them smile, hug you, kiss you or do something nonverbal. Even if they are just stunned, it is still a great compliment to be able to do that to them. So think those over, and until next time, give your Notepad a romantic epiphany and have a great week.

P.S. Sorcha my love, I am glad you understood about Monday, and I am glad to see both of us at our full again. I hope our filler hump is behind us and I hope to impress you with this article. I love you so much, and I can’t wait for our next special post. <3

Sounds of Affection: Music as Communication

In an online romance, sounds and text are more important than anything else. Often text can be misread since there is no intonation and body language, but even sound runs this risk. A tired spoken word can seem bored, or uncaring, or annoyance can be conveyed in words when a distraction is bothering the speaker. I will admit, I put much stock into tone and pitch of Sorcha’s voice, and I’m pleased to find I can now tell the difference between tired and annoyed. But of all the sounds that can be traded between far off lovers, Music can be the most romantic. As you all read in our special post last week, Music means a lot to us, though sometimes we take different things from it, we still understand the intent. Now, I know for a fact music is a big part of both Sorcha’s life and my own as well. We are both amateur musician’s (i.e. we take it as a hobby, near the bottom of both our lists of hobbies), but we are also the kind of people who would gladly have a soundtrack for our life.

Music can convey feelings, memories and thoughts. Being reminded of Sorcha when I hear lines like: “And I do believe it’s true, that there are roads left in both of our shoes. But if the silence takes you, then I hope it takes me too,” always makes me smile. So why not share that song with her, and let her know, “Whenever I listen to this song, I smile, and your the only person who I think of... and It’s now hit over 9000 plays in Windows Media Player.” I will admit, I have my listening trends and they shift from time to time, but nothing makes me happier than double-clicking that certain playlist and just closing my eyes and basking in my thoughts. Now will I stop doing this one I have Sorcha within arms reach? Never! I’ll just play it on my speakers instead of on my headphones, hold her close, and think about how lucky I am to have her in my arms at last.

So then, what is the point of explaining what many people probably know? Nothing. But for those who didn’t, now you know. Music is a way you can tell someone you love them, and your thinking of them, without having to say it. If you can still remind them through a simple gesture or action, then you have spent a day doing the most important thing, and should be proud. So until next time, keep your Media Players happy, and have a great week.

P.S. My dearest Sorcha, I love you, and I had a wonderful time doing last weeks post side by side with you. I can’t wait to do it again next month. You mean the world to me, and I look forward to your post this Friday. <3